Traveling With An Anxious Child: Part 1
One of my children suffers from GAD - Generalized Anxiety Disorder. What does this mean for traveling to new places? Well, to be honest, it can be complicated. Unfamiliar places, different cultural customs, and being off-schedule can be really triggering for my child and cause strong emotional responses. The following are things my husband and I have learned over the years to be helpful in preparation before a big trip!
Mental Prep
If your child has a therapist or some other outside support, schedule a session before (and after) travel if possible. This is a great way for a child with anxiety to work through some of those fears and anxious thoughts with a professional before you even leave.
Go Over Your Itinerary
Making sure your child with anxiety understands the basic flow of the trip is really important. For example, “Monday and Tuesday will be beach days, Wednesday and Thursday will be sightseeing days with more walking, and Friday will be a lot of driving to get to and from a historic site.” Whether or not you have WanderWell prepare an itinerary for you, we can also help you create a more visual guide for your child for them to better understand the method of your upcoming trip.
Visually Prepare For Your Destination(s)
Can I get a hallelujah for Google maps?! Sit down with your anxious child and walk him or her through the place you will be staying and visiting. I have found that this is such a helpful approach for kids (ok, grown ups too!) to explore and prepare for a new place.
When we did this before our trip to Croatia last summer, I let each of my kids “look” around our first stop (the city of Split) on Google maps. They loved being able to “see” our destination and “explore” parts of the city. Two of my children, including my anxious one, found an attraction they declared they HAD to visit - Froggyland. Was a museum of frog taxidermy on my Croatian itinerary? Absolutely not. Did I see how much excitement it brought to my kids, especially my anxious one? Completely. I kid you not, being excited to go to Froggyland gave my anxious child something to look forward to and I totally credit it with helping to diminish some of the worries before the trip. (And yes, we visited and it became a highlight for each of my 3 children. Who would’ve guessed?!)
Learn About Your Destination
Going to a new culture can be jarring for even seasoned travelers. For a kiddo who is naturally anxious? Even more fear-inducing. Before a trip to a new place, I try to pre-load my kids with age-appropriate materials so that they can understand where they will be before they arrive. This can be as simple as teaching a few new words in a different language (“Hello”, “please”, and “thank you” are at the top of our list!).
Preparing your kids can also include checking out some location-specific books from the library or even just watching YouTube videos about your location.
Ask your child in advance what he/she wants to know about the destination and go from there. “What do they eat for breakfast? What do kids do for fun? Do they dress differently? What sports do people like there?” Dispelling the mystery around a new place can help a child with anxiety feel much more comfortable once they arrive.
Don’t have the time or energy to gather materials? Contact us for help and we can put together a destination-specific times and traditions primer for your kiddos!
Stay tuned for part 2 of this blog next week for managing a child’s anxiety during the actual trip!
